LionkingCMSL (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
lionkingcmsl) wrote2003-07-31 08:10 am
lionkingcmsl) wrote2003-07-31 08:10 am
My leaving the SJ Forum
I want this to be seen so that all understand my reasons.
First of all I apologize to![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
the_gneech for making it feel as I didn't/don't respect him and for making it look like I tried to lay a "guilt bomb" at his feet.
Those were not my intentions at all. John, as I have said in that e-mail, I respect you immensely and I would never intentionally try to make someone feel guilty when my actions are my own.
As I have told John, I hate it when I screw up. I'm more forgiving toward other people's mistakes than I am of my own.
Do I think I'm perfect, or that I can be? In a word, NO! I am not perfect, nor can I ever hope to be, but I do hold myself to a higher set of standards than I should, I guess. Some have said that the standards I set are too high, damn near impossible at times. I have eased those standards a bit in some areas, but when it comes to me stating facts, I want my facts to be as precise as possible. It also really bothers me when people start citing facts that I used then I find out they, the facts, were wrong.
If I make a mistake I will be the first to apologize and admit the error. However, if this is not possible, or it has gotten to big for me to apologize to everyone involved, I beat myself up about it.
I'm sorry, but this is how I am "wired".
Yes, the post I did was not that big of a deal and John corrected my mis-statement, but it was after people started quoting me. now I'm not holding those people responsible for my actions. They had known me to be accurate before and thought, I guess, I had the "skinny" because I'm friends with John.
That's when I made my "Goodbye" post.
So why not put it behind me and return, especially after all that has been written?
First of all, I want to thank all for the replies. It does mean a lot to me, and you have touched me with your concern and well wishes. However, I try to be a man of my word. If I say I'm going to do something I try my damnest to do what I said I was going to do. I also do not like hypocrites and don't want to be seen as one or a drama queen; i.e. "I'm sorry to put you all through that. I'm back and everything is ok."
I'm sorry, but that may work with some people, but others get tired of hearing it. I said I'm leaving the board, so I have to abide by that decision.
I may return at sometime, but I don't think it will be in the foreseeable future, unless something drastic happens on the forum.
Yes, I will still read the forum, and of course I'll still read The Suburban Jungle.
I hope that this explains my feelings on what has transpired.
First of all I apologize to
the_gneech for making it feel as I didn't/don't respect him and for making it look like I tried to lay a "guilt bomb" at his feet.Those were not my intentions at all. John, as I have said in that e-mail, I respect you immensely and I would never intentionally try to make someone feel guilty when my actions are my own.
As I have told John, I hate it when I screw up. I'm more forgiving toward other people's mistakes than I am of my own.
Do I think I'm perfect, or that I can be? In a word, NO! I am not perfect, nor can I ever hope to be, but I do hold myself to a higher set of standards than I should, I guess. Some have said that the standards I set are too high, damn near impossible at times. I have eased those standards a bit in some areas, but when it comes to me stating facts, I want my facts to be as precise as possible. It also really bothers me when people start citing facts that I used then I find out they, the facts, were wrong.
If I make a mistake I will be the first to apologize and admit the error. However, if this is not possible, or it has gotten to big for me to apologize to everyone involved, I beat myself up about it.
I'm sorry, but this is how I am "wired".
Yes, the post I did was not that big of a deal and John corrected my mis-statement, but it was after people started quoting me. now I'm not holding those people responsible for my actions. They had known me to be accurate before and thought, I guess, I had the "skinny" because I'm friends with John.
That's when I made my "Goodbye" post.
So why not put it behind me and return, especially after all that has been written?
First of all, I want to thank all for the replies. It does mean a lot to me, and you have touched me with your concern and well wishes. However, I try to be a man of my word. If I say I'm going to do something I try my damnest to do what I said I was going to do. I also do not like hypocrites and don't want to be seen as one or a drama queen; i.e. "I'm sorry to put you all through that. I'm back and everything is ok."
I'm sorry, but that may work with some people, but others get tired of hearing it. I said I'm leaving the board, so I have to abide by that decision.
I may return at sometime, but I don't think it will be in the foreseeable future, unless something drastic happens on the forum.
Yes, I will still read the forum, and of course I'll still read The Suburban Jungle.
I hope that this explains my feelings on what has transpired.
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I think your leaving is the wrong answer, though. You should come back. You don't have to pretend that nothing happened. But trust me, most the forumites will forget this happened as soon as the thread dies. The ones that don't like you too much, anyway.
Expect a phone call from me later today. I hope that I don't wake you up when I get the opportunity to do so.
-=TK
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As for Won-Toola I think his post was more in a nuetral vein. He was saying that you could not change my mind if it was made up, but he was supportive in what I chose to do.
As for phone calls, you can call me at my home number 856-694-5163 after 8p my time, 5p your time.
I do thank everyone for their thoughts and support.
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I do wish LJ would allow you to edit your comments. :=/
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-=TK
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