My leaving the SJ Forum

[lionkingcmsl]

I want this to be seen so that all understand my reasons.

First of all I apologize to the_gneech for making it feel as I didn't/don't respect him and for making it look like I tried to lay a "guilt bomb" at his feet.

Those were not my intentions at all. John, as I have said in that e-mail, I respect you immensely and I would never intentionally try to make someone feel guilty when my actions are my own.

As I have told John, I hate it when I screw up. I'm more forgiving toward other people's mistakes than I am of my own.

Do I think I'm perfect, or that I can be? In a word, NO! I am not perfect, nor can I ever hope to be, but I do hold myself to a higher set of standards than I should, I guess. Some have said that the standards I set are too high, damn near impossible at times. I have eased those standards a bit in some areas, but when it comes to me stating facts, I want my facts to be as precise as possible. It also really bothers me when people start citing facts that I used then I find out they, the facts, were wrong.

If I make a mistake I will be the first to apologize and admit the error. However, if this is not possible, or it has gotten to big for me to apologize to everyone involved, I beat myself up about it.

I'm sorry, but this is how I am "wired".

Yes, the post I did was not that big of a deal and John corrected my mis-statement, but it was after people started quoting me. now I'm not holding those people responsible for my actions. They had known me to be accurate before and thought, I guess, I had the "skinny" because I'm friends with John.

That's when I made my "Goodbye" post.

So why not put it behind me and return, especially after all that has been written?
First of all, I want to thank all for the replies. It does mean a lot to me, and you have touched me with your concern and well wishes. However, I try to be a man of my word. If I say I'm going to do something I try my damnest to do what I said I was going to do. I also do not like hypocrites and don't want to be seen as one or a drama queen; i.e. "I'm sorry to put you all through that. I'm back and everything is ok."

I'm sorry, but that may work with some people, but others get tired of hearing it. I said I'm leaving the board, so I have to abide by that decision.

I may return at sometime, but I don't think it will be in the foreseeable future, unless something drastic happens on the forum.

Yes, I will still read the forum, and of course I'll still read The Suburban Jungle.

I hope that this explains my feelings on what has transpired.

Comments

[dewhitton.livejournal.com]

I'm going to miss your input, mate.

[galish.livejournal.com]

LK, take a deep breath...relax and don't berate yourself. Take a break from the board, but don't abandon it. Yes we all make mistakes, but you havn't lost friends over this. *hugs* call me if you need to talk. You have my numbers and I'll be on AIM.

Gal'ish

[torakiyoshi.livejournal.com]

As I see it, they were quoting me, except for Nekomimikun. (Are we surprised that he cheered you on? No.) You and I both had the same misinformation, but mine came first. Most of the comments quoted my "straight as an arrow" phrase, and it's pretty clear who my unnamed source is, even before you confirmed it.

I think your leaving is the wrong answer, though. You should come back. You don't have to pretend that nothing happened. But trust me, most the forumites will forget this happened as soon as the thread dies. The ones that don't like you too much, anyway.

Expect a phone call from me later today. I hope that I don't wake you up when I get the opportunity to do so.

-=TK

[lowen-kind.livejournal.com]

TK,

As for Won-Toola I think his post was more in a nuetral vein. He was saying that you could not change my mind if it was made up, but he was supportive in what I chose to do.

As for phone calls, you can call me at my home number 856-694-5163 after 8p my time, 5p your time.

I do thank everyone for their thoughts and support.

Oops

[lowen-kind.livejournal.com]

Won-Tolla = Neko.

I do wish LJ would allow you to edit your comments. :=/

[torakiyoshi.livejournal.com]

*Makes a note of the time* Thanks. The Gneech gave me your cell phone number, too. *Enters your home phone in his cell's address book.*

-=TK

[nekomimikun.livejournal.com]

I think TK is referring to the post on your thoughts on the "Conrad is gay" issue.

[welah.livejournal.com]

[sniff...]
You will be sorely missed.

I would hope I can sympathize; I, too, have taken hasty leave from another notable webcomic forum because of my mis-speech.
I admire your honor and dedication to this matter. As much as we'd like you back, if you felt that an immediate return would be going back on your word, that is your prerogative. I have a great deal of respect for you, LK, and this, as much as anything, increases that respect.

That being said, I honestly do not believe anyone has taken offence or any harm was done. I know I speak for the whole board when I say that I would take nothing but delight from seeing your avatar show his furry face on the forums once again, some day. Until then, I'm just glad I get to keep in touch here.

-Welah.


-Welah.

[mooncat.livejournal.com]

While I can't honestly say that I agree with your decision, I must respect it. Just don't take too long in coming back to the forum.

*comforts*

[katayamma.livejournal.com]

OK, my friend, I've stayd out of this long enough and just want to say this.

Don't let your ego drive you from the forum.

Yes, you said you'd leave, but that doesn't mean that you're not allowed to change your mind. Everyone's allowed to change their mind. Women like to clame that it's their perogative, but we have that right too.

Take a little time, step back and let things settle down. When you do, I think you'll find that there isn't really a need for you to leave the forum.

HOWEVER! That being said, if you do decide to leave the forums, then I'm sorry to see you go. You do tend to make the conversations a tad more interesting.

Cheers
- Hikaru
- The color behing the Suburban Jungle.

[tygermoonfoxx.livejournal.com]

I know how you feel :( Not in the SJ forum (I try to avoid forums because of all the communications problems and stress they cause) but elsewhere, the same has happened to me. I'm left with a damaged friendship because of a misquote....and no real way to back out because while the quote itself wasn't accurate, I stand by what I thought and felt.

The best thing you could probably do would be to give it and yourself time. I do highly recommend finding something that will help you deal with these situations before they reach critical mass. I've done the same thing --- let something build until I felt I had no choice but to follow through on a decision I really didn't want to make.

Hope you feel better soon.