Am I over reacting?

[lionkingcmsl]

For those that really know me know that I love to talk on the phone. I can't help it, I'm a sound biased lion.

But something has cropped up. :=/

Saturday morning I made an early morning phone call (7:45a).

The person I called was surprised to hear my voice. It seems that the household wasn't used to getting a phone call that early, and the ones they've been receiving were more of the "emergency" type.

I was on the phone for less than 2 minutes when I realized the receipent wasn't happy to hear my voice. The rest of the household was still asleep. Please note that the other party was not angry, mad, surly, or anything else, but I could tell the party was none to pleased. I also found out that the other party thought something had happened to me, as I never had, up to that point called that early.

That, making the phone call, was very, very, stupid of me. I should've realized that most people are asleep at that time of morning.

I have been assured though that if my phone call had caused problems, the party's mate would've given me an earful. Being that didn't happen, I have been assured everything is "cool".

The problem is, I like to talk when I get bored. :=/

Here's where some people think I've been over reacting:
To keep a similar situation from occuring again, callling at an inconvient time, I have stopped all my outgoing phone calls, of a non-emergency or business nature. This does not apply to my family and co-workers where I must contact them at any time, and of course anything of a life-threatening emergency.

So basically, if you have recieved phone calls from me in the past, just to chat, it won't happen again.

What do you think? Am I over reacting, or am I doing the right thing by not making any out going phone calls to just chat or ask questions that could be asked via text based messaging, i.e. e-mail, AIM, ICQ, etc.

Please let me know what you think.

EDIT: I will remind people though that if they want to call me, they ar more than welcome to do so. If you don't have my number, just get a hold of me via e-mail, AIM, or what ever and I'll give it to you. As far as that goes, you can call me, literally, at any time, even 3a my time. Just be aware that I might tell you that's not a good time to talk, like between 6p and 9p on Monday nights, because of class, or somemthing else. Of course you might, probably will, get a very sleepy lion if you call at 3a, but I'll normally be fully awake by the second or third sentence. What may surprise you to find that is if you do call me at that time of morning, I'll still pick up on the 2nd or 3rd ring. ;=3

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Personally I feel that you should be locked up and kept as far away from other people as possible.

You are disgrace to the human race.

[lowen-kind.livejournal.com]

hmmmm.

At least someone has given me their honest thoughts.

I will not delete this comment. Some felt it was neccessary to post it, so it stay.
And please, no flames regarding this poster. Those will be deleted.

[sporklord.livejournal.com]

I think you're over-reacting. I call to chat as well, but I always restrict myself to calling between 11 AM and 9 PM unless it's an emergency, like you said. Most people are awake between those hours.... unless they aren't. But those cases are the exceptions, except when they're not. In summary, self contradiction is fun. Unless it isn't.

[karolluis.livejournal.com]

That other comment is sarcastic, right?

Anyway, I think you're going a bit overboard here. There's no need to cut out calling anyone ever again.. That's just silly. Just work out with your friends what is an appropriate hour to call. My friends know not to call me after 10 at night, or before 9 am in the morning.. Its a simple guideline, and avoids them getting a grumpy me at the other end of the line.

just plan your calling

[windwraith.livejournal.com]

Actually LK, all you need do is plan your calling. It helps to have a rough idea of which time zone someone is in and what their work sleep schedule is. After that, just try to pay attention to that info. when calling. You may want to keep a word file with such information together with phone numbers just to make it all easier. Of course one can always do as we did the other night and AIM first.

[level-head.livejournal.com]

Most interesting, and something of a non sequitur in this context.

"An ounce of explanation is worth a pound obscure."

Can you explain something about how you came by this opinion?

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[level-head.livejournal.com]

The answer to your question is yes.

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[lowen-kind.livejournal.com]

Level Head,

Your answer sounds like something my father would say if asked if he wanted ham or turkey for Christmas dinner. :=/

Do you mean, yes, I'm over reacting or yes, I'm doing the right thing by not making any outgoing phone calls?

Could you please calrify?

Re:

[level-head.livejournal.com]

You asked several times if you were overracting. Sorry for the vague answer.

You're overreacting; specifically, you encountered a very narrow problem and are contemplating a very broad solution with far reaching effects.

Sort of like "Gee, when I drive backward without looking first I bump into a car. So I'll never drive a car again."

I'm not trying to be flippant; you indicated that you called "without looking first" at the time. So you'll never drive a phone again. Inappropriate; simply look first.

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[lowen-kind.livejournal.com]

Level Head,

One quick point, I knew what time it was when I called. I didn't think before I acted. THat's why I say it was "stupid".

Now to your car analogy.

I wouldn't say I'm giving up "driving" altogether, only driving in reverse. If I was giving up "driving" altogether, then I would disconnect the phone and not talk to anyone via that means.

[emsworth.livejournal.com]

But it sounds as if that's what you intend to do, or near enough, except for family and co-workers. In the course of this life, everyone says something thoughtless in the course of conversation, but few give up speaking. Not the best anology, of course. What it comes down to, of course, is really your own comfort level. It sounds as if you've let this worry you more than it should (though that's human nature; still a few trivial things I did or neglected to do for someone in my formative years that nag at me on rare occasions), so if this is the only way to let your mind at ease about possibly disturbing friends, so be it, and I'm also assuming that you have other ways (in person, online) of communicating with them. In any event, hope whatever decision you make works out, and that all goes well for you.

[skipai.livejournal.com]

LK. Ignore the scared anonymous posters. You really shouldn't listen to someone who don't have the balls to actually admit to who they are.

Nuff said.

[skipai.livejournal.com]

LK, I will email you a response to this and for the record I wsan't flaming with the other remark but delete if you feel it's appropriate. I just don't like anonymous posters that's all.

Oh, look...the peanut gallery speaks.

[ionotter.livejournal.com]

Y'know, LK...if you would simply put a checkmark in the selection to LOG ANONYMOUS POSTER'S IP ADDRESSES, they'd be a heck of a lot more inclined to leave HELPFULL comments.

And they'd also be less inclined to hide behind a screen.

Yes, you've over-reacting.

[ionotter.livejournal.com]

You are OVER-REACTING!

As usual.

You are hereby instructed to call me sometime within the next two days. Failure to comply will result in SUCH A PINCH!!

*clacks his jaws at you suggestively*

Re: Yes, you've over-reacting.

[lowen-kind.livejournal.com]

Ahhh, but how do you know that me not calling you will result in you doing what I want you to do, visit.

Being I'm not planning to visit Hawaii in the foreseeable future, that means you will have to come here. That means a trip to Capt. Cat's and their wonderful cocktail sauce. ;=3p

Re:

[level-head.livejournal.com]

So think first. No big deal.

I am often up and about at 5 or 6 a.m. I recognize that this is an inappropriate time to call someone at home. Now you do too. It's done.

"And if you never hear from me
That doesn't mean I didn't call."
(I'd guess you recognize this...)

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[torakiyoshi.livejournal.com]

I would have to say, with all gentleness, that it is an overreaction, especially if you're a phone-based communicator. For me, I despise the phone and most of the time don't even remember to turn it on (I only have cellular service). But I can tell you that if I didn't make my regular calls to my parents and certain other people, they would be calling the Spokane authorities to add me to the missing persons list.

Heh... I had a rule with my dad-- Don't call before noon on Saturday. He would call us at 7:00 MST and wonder why we were still in bed here in Washington. Then I'd have to deal with a surly roommate all day. Not that his calls were unwanted, I just wished they came at a better time. Like, say, about 3:00 when I was looking for anything to do besides homework. :)

[torakiyoshi.livejournal.com]

Heh... my difficulty there comes in the fact that my phone goes down to the cheap minutes (52 hours compared to six for peak times per month) at 8:00 PST. Which means if I want to call someone on, say, the East coast, it's either at 11:00 at night, or on the weekend.

So my mom gets random calls from me around 9:00me/10:00her, but other than that I use the same general rule.

[mooncat.livejournal.com]

I would have to say that you're over reacting. *patpats the lion* We all have our favoured ways of communicating, and while not being a phone-oriented being myself (i have to deal with them all day bleh) I never mind when folks think enough of me to willingly subject themselves to my vocal ramblings. :) Granted, I tend to sound vacant and half-spaced on phones, but that's because I can't see who I'm talking to and thus can't focus well on the conversation.

Ok, so you oopsed, and called someone kind of early. We all do things like that, in fact today in a fit of annoyance I pretty much told the boss that I regard her as 'the enemy'. (didn't tell her but the person I did say that to will likely repeat it). Shutting yourself off like that is not the answer.

[the-gneech.livejournal.com]

To whoever posted this comment: You are hereby invited to step outside, asshole.

-The Gneech